I’m Emma. Mother of two small humans, wife, lawyer, beagle owner and coach (Confidence, Mindset & Wellbeing). Oh and lover of Gin (occasionally and only when the children have a sleepover).
If you’re reading this you’re contemplating change. But you haven’t done it yet. You might have lots of thoughts and ideas. Or you might not but know that something needs to change.
Change is exciting, but it can also be daunting, worrying. Sometimes you need someone to come along for the ride with you, championing you, acting as an impartial sounding block, asking you questions to help process your thoughts and hold you accountable. That someone could be me so let’s see if we’d be a good fit.
Does any of the following ring true?
*You’re a first, second, third (insert own number) time mum and quite frankly you’re feeling a little lost. Scrap that you’re feeling very lost. You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, a loss of identity but don’t know who to turn to. I hear you as that was me first time round. I’m not here to counsel you but I can help you find ‘you’ again, whatever form that might be.
*You’re an employed professional mother who craves more flexibility and more time with her children. You’ve always been employed could you work for yourself? What else would you do? Where would you start? Let’s look at those transferable skills and explore what ‘Light’s you up.’
*You’re happy in your role but struggling with your work/life balance. Let’s take a look at your priorities, how you’re spending your time and get you doing more of the things that really matter to you most.
*You’re not currently working but have a few ideas of possible business ventures. Those ideas have been swimming around in your head driving you crazy. Let’s take action, let’s get those ideas in order and let’s come up with a plan to kickstart this new venture of yours.
*People have been saying to you “You’re so good at X, you should do X.” But you haven’t. Why not? What’s holding you back? You can do anything. We can explore that and get you doing ‘X’ if that’s your passion.
I think Baz Lurman accurately describes my journey:
“Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with life…. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t”
I never knew what I wanted to be when I ‘grew up’ and have taken many paths over the years: pony ride attendant, Burger King, retail management, hospitality, market analyst, Kelloggs territory manager, legal secretary to name but a few.
I have a degree in Tourism Management yet have never worked in that industry. I started re-qualifying as a lawyer in my mid 20s and over a decade later I continue to practise representing nurses who are subject to fitness to practise proceedings.
I really struggled with anxiety, loss of confidence, overwhelm, loss of identity after my first child. But I put on a brave face and just carried on because I thought everybody else is managing. The reality is not everybody is managing and if there’s one thing I’ve learnt the hard way is that it’s better to talk about it than to keep it all bottled up inside.
When I returned to work I thought I would regain my identity as a professional and easily juggle this with motherhood. I was wrong. If anything things got worse and when my son was 2 years old it all came to a head. I shan’t bore you with the details but needless to say I needed to make some changes, I needed to put me and my family first and appreciate that I could not be everything to everyone.
Former perfectionist and people pleaser having children has been the catalyst for change in my life in many ways. I’m now a lot kinder to myself, hold back from over committing and say ‘no’ more often. I take time to enjoy what is happening in the present rather than dwelling on what has been and worrying about what is to come.
Looking back at my patchwork quilt of a CV I realise I wanted to help people, in whatever form that may take. Looking at my recent personal experiences that desire to help and effect change is stronger than ever.
My legal career has seen me supporting people through extremely difficult and challenging experiences. Listening to their story and with my knowledge and tools coming up with a plan and empowering them to take action to achieve their best possible outcome. They have to put the work in and you would too if you wanted to be successful (in whatever form that may take for you.)
MATERNITY LEAVE, TAKE 2, 2018
2018 was a year of reflection and thought about the future.
For a long time friends and family said I ought to blog but I didn’t think anyone would be interested in my ramblings. To be honest the thought of putting something out there in the public domain for scrutiny was so scary. I thought I would make a fool of myself, that people would laugh at me. From a practical perspective I hadn’t a clue how to set up a blog or where to even start.
I’ve worried about how I would manage the drop offs and pickups of two young children coupled with a stressful job. I enjoy being a lawyer, I enjoy helping people but the nature of the work I do is very stressful and emotive. It takes a lot out of me. Could I see myself doing this until the end of my days? I wasn’t sure. But what else would I do?
I had a couple of ideas for an alternative lifestyle but I didn’t know what to do with them, where to start.
And then I got myself a Confidence & Business coach who helped me see all the transferable skills I’ve built up over the years and how I could use these to help others fulfil their potential.
I share this information with you to demonstrate that change is possible and to share how passionate I am about coaching mums to achieve their goals. This could be in the form of a change of career or a new business venture. Or it could mean finding the old ‘you’ again, finding time for yourself and not feeling guilty about it.
If I’ve kept you reading this far I must have ticked some of the boxes so why not book a free no obligation 30 minutes discovery call with me to see if we’d be a good fit. You can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I look forward to talking you with.